Life’s experiences have taught me that you should always expect a storm on New Year’s. Expect the unexpected and be prepared for the worst.

I remember back to a year in Montana. It was the Christmas of 1971.  I remember it well as it was my first year married. My husband and I were in our last year of college. We went home for Christmas. It was a typical drive over the Rocky Mountains through Mountain passes. A normal four and a half hour ride home. We had a lovely Christmas.

We had planned to return back to school on December 31st but his mother said,”Please stay for New Year’s.” She loved her small but enjoyable parties with family and friends.

We agreed to stay and on New Year’s Eve the worst storm I had ever seen rolled in. Then I was afraid to leave to return to school.

My husband being the man he was said, “We’ll be fine.”

We left January 2nd and headed back in our 1950 Chevy across mountain terrain that no one was on. It was still snowing and hard to see very far in front of you.

The more we traveled the more we saw cars in ditches including the highway patrol.

I begged him to stop and spend the night in another town but he refused. We were the only car able to stay on the road with our heavy old car.

We crawled all the way home and after eleven hours arrived safely in front of our home only to find out there was no place to park the car. So much snow had fallen that you had to shovel a parking place. Exhausted and a nervous wreck I helped my husband for the next two hours shovel out a place to park the car. We unloaded the car and went inside glad to be home.

Too tired to do anything we went to bed after calling our families to let them know we were safe.

That would not be my only holiday horror experience. Now that I am older and hopefully much wiser I prefer the warmth and safety of staying in doors at my own home. I want to know where my sons are. I pray for those who have to travel and worry constantly about what storms will roll in.

Last night was a perfect example of the unexpected. I knew a storm was coming. I told my son I didn’t want my car out in it but he had to go to town. Six hours later and half a dozen phone calls he returned home safe.

I went to bed early but couldn’t sleep because of the winds howling and pounding at the door.

Up and down like a yo-yo I finally was able to get a few hours of sleep but awoke exhausted.

This morning the ground is covered with a blanket of white. You can hear the crisp sound as cars drive by. My wind chimes occasionally move. But the calm is now here.

Remember for those of you who wish to celebrate New Year’s sometimes it is better to do so at home .

No matter where you celebrate make sure those drinking either have a safe place to stay or a designated driver.

Friends don’t allow friends to make bad decisions and be out risking their lives and the lives of others.

This weekend will be the weekend of the unexpected as the door to the old year closes and a new door opens.

I pray that all of you stay safe and are here for 2012



until next time 🙂


December 30th

The most dangerous weekend of the year:

This is the weekend when everyone needs to plan carefully and be responsible.

This is the weekend when people want to celebrate the ending of the year and the starting of New Year’s.

However, with New Year’s falling on a Sunday the parting will start tonight on Friday and go all weekend.

It will bring out the worst in people not the best.

The lonely hearts will be looking for a place to go and this will lead to the bars, drinking and driving and who knows what.

The young and inexperience will want to celebrate, celebrate, celebrate.

Those who haven’t been out in years and are finally given a chance for an

evening to themselves aren’t going to know where to go.

No matter which category most of those on the roads at night will be drunk.

This is a good time to have friends over, play cards, have a movie night, pop popcorn and doing something that doesn’t require drinking.

If you have to celebrate with spirits make sure that designated drivers are assigned and that there is a limit. Don’t do endless drinking until people are falling hurting themselves.

Three day bashes aren’t good for anyone and that isn’t how you want to start the NEW YEAR!


Take time to reflect on the good and the bad of the past year. Look forward to changes in the upcoming year no matter how difficult.

Take time to be with family, and trusted friends.

Take time for yourself and forget about work.

Take time to enjoy nature.

Do something you love to do that makes you feel good. After all ringing in the New is also about the New You!

Change your looks, go somewhere you haven’t been before. Stay at a resort, dude ranch or spa.

Spend money on yourself for a change and think about you.

Pamper yourself with bubble baths, jewelry and those special colognes.

Have a massage and let your worries drift away.

Whatever you do don’t be driving this weekend.

Leave early for your destination and arrive home early. That way you won’t be on the roads when the worst drivers are out.

Avoid any dangerous pitfalls you are aware of in your community.

Celebrity wisdom, the courage to be different, and the ability to stay at home. Enjoy who you are no matter where you are.

Live for tomorrow not for today. Those who love you want you to be around for a while.

Watch the New Year come in on Television celebration with millions of people from the comfort of your front room.


Every year when parties are going on some child in the home overdoses on glasses of alcohol left sitting around.

Don’t let that happen to your child. Keep your children away from alcohol.

Not only is that the beginning of alcoholism but it could be their final moments.

Children are curious and they will taste anything adults have even if they don’t like it.

Supervise your young ones.

Most important of all have a safe weekend. Keep your family safe and be around for the year 2012.

until next time 🙂

December 29th

Out with the OLD in with the NEW!!!!

As 2011 comes to an end we look back at the important highlights of the year. We see there were many challenges to over come.

We reflect on our military and it’s struggles, losses and successes. We are happy to see them return home. We morn those who didn’t. We hope the cause was served for the right purposes. Now we get ready for the next stage in our lives.

We also reflect on the many people who married, died , and moved on during the year 2011.

We look at the challenges our country has faced over economy, publicity, military struggles, and Wall Street Complications affected by countries around the world.

We hope for a brighter future.

We reflect back on the wonderful people who stepped forward at Christmas time to pass it forward and make the holidays a brighter time for those people whose lives they touched.

We reflect on horrific tragedies that different parts of the world have faced due to mother nature. Now we look at the unusual seasonal effects and wonder what will come. Some areas have been hit hard with blizzards while others have no snow with no signs of it in the near future.

Ski resorts are hurting during their busiest season. What will the year 2012 bring to this already hurting economy?

Now just as we had hoped things would brighten with troops returning home Iran has roared like the king of the jungle. Will we have difficulty importing gasoline into the United States? Will we have to pay such outrageous prices at the pump that no one can go anywhere? How will that affect those who already are jobless and have no money to search for jobs?

Has the hope of the New Year being a better year already been dwindled?

Will more people be faced with loosing property, homes, cars, and turning to the streets?

Will more people be going without food, and heat?

Just at a time when Intermountain gas company made an announcement to give a utility break how will they be affected now?

What about one of the oldest retail stores closing many doors? Did you ever think you would see Sears go out of business. I didn’t but when it happened in my hometown some years ago it hurt everyone. You don’t know how bad you are affected until it happens.
What about those Sears workers who didn’t know their jobs were in jeopardy until after the spending of Christmas. Do you think that helped them? Now they have to life with what they might have done differently had they known they were going to be out of work?

Why don’t we push out the foreign stores first? The ones who undercut the economy of our country.

What about mad in the USA? Did that help our economy this season?

2011 has been a year of the unexpected. It is time for some stabilization in our country but do you think that will happen in 2013?

Are you superstitious? Do you think the number 13 will have an impact on the roller coaster ride that we could be in store for?

What can you do to make it easier in your own part of the world?

Here are some helpful hints:

1. Set realistic goals

2. Cut back on luxuries

3. Plan ahead

4. Stock up on food when on sale

5. Have a nest egg instead of going out spending money

6. Families living together helping expenses

7. Don’t pay someone to do what you can do yourself

8. Pick up extra odd jobs when possible

9. Eat at home

10. Cut back on electronic entertainment enjoy family time

11. Help Neighbors out

12. Don’t be afraid to ask for help but pass it forward when you can

Times are only going to get tougher. It is time that we prepare ourselves for that.

Recognize that somethings are a privilege.

1. Eduction is a privilege

2. Jobs are a privilege

3. Income is a necessity

4. Luxuries aren’t a necessity

5. Shelter, food, clothing, heat are necessities.

6. Entertainment is a luxury

Know the difference between privileges, necessities, and luxuries. Make a list and separate them accordingly. Cut back on anything that isn’t a necessity.

Find a group that you can participate in that has similar beliefs and doesn’t cost much. It will give you the support you need in times when things seem difficult.


life is what you make of it.  You have to take the bad with the good so that you are more experienced and understand life .

Now as you approach the NEW YEAR may you be blessed in the future. Keep the faith and help your neighbor.

We always manage to bounce back so as you reflect on the past, and the present and think about the future have positive goals that you can strive for no matter what.

Remember baby steps are sometimes the most important ones.


until next time 🙂

December 28th

New Years Preparation

With New Years resolutions and putting away off the holiday season we are also faced with tax season so where do we begin with all of this?

It is a good time now to CLEAN HOUSE!



That means people who are holding you back, that means debts you don’t need, that means clutter in the home, office, etc.

This is the perfect time to go through old bills, eliminate, dump those negative people who don’t want you to succeed, and tell them to move on. It is time to organize your house, your job, and your tax papers so that you can move forward.



Remember it is better to shred anything with personal information on it as there are those you go through garbage to access your identity.

Keep in mind that if you are applying for anything like a home loan, medicare/medicaid etc. you need bank records for three years. Remember taxes can go back seven years.


The sooner you organize yourself the sooner you can file taxes, move on with your New Years Resolution goals and make important changes in your life.


If you have someone in your life that is holding you back or is negative all the time. Be honest tell them the problem and let them know you are moving on. They won’t like it but you need to do what is right for you. Be responsible in your actions, don’t be cruel but be fair to both yourself and them.

You can’t carry excess baggage around and change your life.


Make sure you have one goal a day that you can accomplish. It doesn’t matter how small it is. It does matter if you can say I did it!!!!


If you can’t find a place for something than chances are you don’t need it so get rid of it. Have your home organized. Run your home like you would a business.


Make a list of what is the most important things in your life and put them in order. Don’t let anything interfere with that.

Most people go Religion, Family, Work, Friends, ETC>


Remember there lives are affected by what you do.

They need to have exercise so plan a time for them.

Schedule their eating habits and sleeping habits to coincide with your lifestyle.


Make a reminder of at least three positive things you will do every day. Put it where you can read it frequently such as the mirror, refrigerator, car etc.

Then at the end of the day self evaluate how you did. Was I more positive at work? Did I say please and thank you? Did I smile at customers? How did I treat the clerk at the store?


Be on time. Get in the habit of paying your bills as soon as you get your check. Don’t put it off until tomorrow.

Be on time mailing those important bills and letters.

Be on time to work.

Be on time getting up in the morning and going to bed.

Be on time going to visit a friend.

Break the late habit.

Be on time making your goals.


“Excuses only satisfy the user” unknown author

No one cares what excuse you have they only care about the outcome. Do what you know is right. Do it on time and be successful.

If you think you are covering your tracks you are only lying to yourself. Others around you see and know you well enough to know what is real.

13. Be the Best you can be!

IF you know you have done your best that is what matters.

It doesn’t matter if it’s cooking, cleaning the house, going to work, or being a friend. If you always put your best foot forward and try your very best than you can be proud of what you have done.

14. Don’t Compete

Who cares what Joe Blow down the street is doing? You aren’t living that life. Don’t try competing to have the biggest and best house, car or job. You will fail miserably.

Like your own life. Be happy and live it the best you know how to do.

15. Be Helpful

You sow what you reap in life. Give a helping hand to a family member, a neighbor or a friend. That doesn’t mean you let them use you. However, a good friend knows when to listen and when to speak up and say “No!” That applies to everyone.

However, it never hurts to shovel someones walk, mow their lawn, or just help them carry groceries in the house.

Do it because it makes you feel good to be able to help someone not because you expect something in return.


It takes less muscles to smile than it does to frown and people will like you better.

But don’t always try to be the office clown or the family clown it gets old after a while.

17. Judge your own Home before you Judge Someone Else’s

There is a saying “Clean up your own house first!” In other words people who live in Glass Houses shouldn’t through rocks!”

No one has a right to judge another. You only have the right to judge yourself and what you do with your life.

My father use to say “Never judge a person until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes!” I agree but my shoes are hard enough to walk in so I’ll leave the judgement to a higher power.

18. Remember we all make mistakes.

Forgive, don’t forget, but learn from it and move on.

19. “It is What it is”

You can cry over spilled milk but that won’t clean it up. Let the past go and move on. That includes broken relationships, jobs, etc. It does no good to worry about the things you can’t change.

20. Worry about what you can change

Let the rest go and be productive.  You will find more peace and happiness when you stop worrying over what you can’t control.

You can’t control other people and their actions, you can only control yours.

Take time to ponder this.

Time time for peaceful relaxation, listen to music, go dancing, take a walk, exercise, and just do something fun that you like to do. Make sure you have at least an hour a day of alone time to clear your head and be at peace with yourself.

All of these tidbits I have found useful to me over the years and they have helped me through many stressful times. I hope that they will help someone else.

Until next time 🙂

December 27th

New Years Resolutions

It is time for planning what we will change for the next year and those silly resolutions that we make every year knowing we can’t keep them. Most of us don’t follow through because we don’t make realistic resolutions in the first place.

Why? Is it because we don’t care? Is it because we don’t try? NO! It’s because we don’t know how to make the right resolutions in the first place.

Everyone talks about, dieting, exercising, and finances for resolutions but the truth is they would already be doing it if they knew what to do.

Here are a few important tips to follow throughout the up coming year that everyone can follow.

First: Set goals that you can achieve

Second: Put those goals on a piece of paper on a mirror, on your refrigerator, on a place where you can read them in the morning and at night before you go to bed.

Third: Check them off as you accomplish them

Fourth: Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and try new things

Fifth: Have a small reward when you’ve accomplished something

Sixth: Share it with a friend

Seventh: Recognize baby steps

Eighth: Realize that roadblocks lead to success

Ninth: Don’t give up Keep Pursuing your Goal.

Tenth: Start a new list when you have accomplished what you started.

Now how do I set these goals?

Now break them into four categories.

1. Home:

Where do I want to live? A House or an Apartment?

How much am I willing to pay?

Do I need more room or do I down size?

Do I want a garage?

Then write out what your goal is for example:

a)I plan to own my own home and live in Montana on XXX amount of Dollars.

b) I am going to get rid of all unnecessary clutter and downsize to simplify my life.

c) I am going to redecorate the living room, etc

2. Employment

Are you going to find work? Change jobs? Retire? Start your own business? Stay where you are?


a) I am going to retire

b) I am going to work from home

c) I am going stay where I am but I am going to change my attitude and be more positive

d) I am going to find a new job

3 . Personal

What do you do for yourself?

Do you belong to an organization or a church? Do you exercise? Do you go out with friends? Do you take time to enjoy things you like? How about taking a class and learning something new? What about changing fashions, hair style and looks?


a) I am going to exercise everyday at 7:00 pm for 20 minutes.

b) I am going to get a new hairstyle

c) I am going to take a computer class

d) I am going to go to Church every Wednesday night.

e) I am going to start a hobby on photography or take a cooking class, etc.

f) I am going to take an hour a day for quiet time for me to relax, enjoy music, read and be at peace with the world.

g) plan a vacation

4. Community

How are you going to be involved in the community you live in? This is extra besides work. It is an activity that can make you not only feel successful but makes you feel accepted and like you are contributing in your own environment.

a) I will volunteer at the food bank once a week

b) I will go to the nursing home and read or sing, play a musical instrument once a week.

c) I will be active in Church weekly

d) I will participate in a non-profit organization

e) I will volunteer to be a reader at the schools

f) I will help with monthly community activities and meetings

g) I will participate with the community sports activities

h) Participate in a neighborhood watch group

Now that you have set your four goals. Follow them change them and update them as frequently as you need to. However, what is important is that they are in writing and that you see yourself checking them off and updating them so you have a sense of accomplishment.

Don’t set goals that are the same as your friends. You are different people and you won’t follow through. Do this individually and make it very personal.

People who set three-year goals find themselves meeting them and accomplishing them whether it is to take a family vacation or relocate to another area.

Every change affects finances so it can’t be over night. Those who learn to plan and stick to their plan not only are successful but find themselves much happier people.

Fashion and attitude are an important part of change.

The better you look the better you feel. Get up in the mornings, shower, dress up and greet the day like it is special.

Treat yourself to luxuries. Don’t buy the cheapest shampoo, soap, body sprays, cologne. Your body deserves better. When you believe that you will do better.

If you want to be classy then act classy. Get a fun hair style, fun clothes, and do something fun.

Everyone has to have entertainment of some kind even on a tight budget.

Take the family out, go for a picnic, a hike, a walk in the park, play in the snow, do something that gets you outside in the fresh air.

A dollar hamburger is affordable for everyone, and can be seen as a special treat when the family does it on occasion not every day.

Remember families who play together stay together. Find the cheapest activities in your area. Don’t be afraid to use the barter system. Maybe you have a skill you can trade for something beneficial.

Don’t whine, and cry over the have not’s no one cares.

Don’t brag let people guess about changes in you.

When people see you positive they will ask and then you can share and help someone else learn how to set goals.

Remember to post pictures of dream goals in visible places. If you want a new house or car cut out a picture and put it where you will look at it everyday.

If you want a new job find a picture of the type of job you would like and post it where you can see it.

If you want to go back to school get catalogs and start applying.

Find a picture of a hobby. Past them all over your house who cares it’s your home and your vision.  Make a dream board where you can place them.

Stop dreaming and take action on your dreams. It’s never to late as long as you are still alive. Get moving on it. If you need help send me a comment I will help you set your goals.

Now you have four days to get those goals written for your NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS! Set ones that you can accomplish.

Let’s make this the best year every.

Until next time 🙂

December 26th

Return Day is here:

The day that is most dreaded by all. The day you frantically rush to the store to return presents that don’t work, clothes that don’t fit while you pray you can find something left on the shelves to replace your item.

This is the day that all workers would like to call in sick but they can’t.

The let down from all that hustle and bustle coming to an end has finally hit.

Now you don’t know what to do next. Could it be I don’t have to do anything?

Next will be the planning of dismantling all the hard work that was put into decorating and preparing for a once and year holiday.

For some preparation will be planning a party for New Years.

For many however, they are relieved that Christmas is over and the worry of financial burdens has come to an end.

Those who didn’t over spend will have enjoyed their Christmas and know that they can handle again come next year.

However, for those plastic people who over spend they will have to work hard to have it paid off before the next Christmas rolls around just to end up in debt again. Something seems very wrong with that.

Having been a single parent for many years I had to learn to live within my means and my sons had to accept what wasn’t always easy. They learned that I would do what I could for them and the rest was love from my heart.

It is still that way today. Now that I am on disability there is no extra money. So I try to be creative. They each received an autographed book of “Growing Up in the Rockies,” a letter from my heart, and a coupon to exchange for a check .

I have a settlement coming but didn’t make it in time for Christmas so the best thing I could do was make up a coupon for them and hope that they were okay with that.

However, I always believe in everyone having a gift to unwrap. So there’s always a candle from the Family Dollar store, candy, picture frames, etc.

I have spent all of my adult life trying not to do anything that would require exchanges.

Growing up as a child I remember having to always exchange one present from a special Aunt. Every family has that one person that you know will give from the heart but you know in the end you will exchange it.

My aunt didn’t see us very often although she lived in the same town. She never had children of her own so wasn’t use to buying clothes for kids. Every year we would get a store-bought dress or blouse and it would be two or three sizes too small. You always had to go the day after to return it. She never had much money as they lived on social security. So she bought from Woolworth’s. I loved that store but it was very hard to find clothes to exchange for the day after Christmas. That meant you would spend hours looking and finally find something you could use or wanted.

I learned then if I didn’t know what size don’t get it. Do something usable.

Then there is always the gifts that come without batteries and you go to use them on Christmas Day and no batteries. I learned as a parent very quickly children don’t understand that. There is nothing worse on Christmas Day then rushing out to try to find batteries for a disappointed child.

I learned either don’t give gifts requiring batteries or include the batteries. However, batteries got to be very expensive when everything required them.

This year the only disappointment was no snow so it didn’t look like Christmas so no one wanted to drive around looking at lights.

Then of course every year some family member is having person struggles to over come and all you can do is be supportive of them and share the love of the family.

Somehow with all the hustle, bustle, and worrying about the day you manage to get through another Christmas.

We had an extra Turkey in the freezer and at the last-minute my sons friend called and said I need your turkey we didn’t get one. So even at the last-minute you can be there to help out a friend in need.

Christmas carols shared the love of Christ and his birthday. Animated shows on television entertained children.

The pets may have been a little confused but they survived the day.

So through laughter, joy, sweat and tears, Christmas is over for another year.

Now everyone has over eaten and they will make New Years Resolutions about dieting, changing life habits, and saying next year I have to cut back. But they will enjoy it next year the same as they did this year.

Family traditions, holiday customs, religious beliefs, and family love all wrapped up into one Special day to remind us of what we should be living each and everyday.

Now as I look out my wind I miss the colors of spring, the beauty of fall, and white of winter, but I am glad that we had safe roads and weather for travel.

I hope that all of you had a very Merry Christmas and that all of you found safe travel, good memories, and shared family love.

For those who have recently lost a loved one and it was your first Christmas without them may you find peace in your heart.

I wish all of you many blessings as we approach the New Year. May everyone end the year 2011 safely and have closer.

God Bless you all until next time 🙂

Christmas Day

Merry Christmas to all.

The day that you have being getting ready for with busy anticipation is finally here.

I am waiting for my son to arrive and then our daily will be busy with family traditions.

May all of you awake to the beautiful morning and the sun lit sky that I awoke to.

May your day be filled with family, friends, laughter, and joy.

May you all feel the true meaning of Christmas in your hearts.

May you eat wonderful foods until you can’t eat anymore.

May the children be excited with the arrival of Santa Claus.

May your pets share in the Christmas Joy also.

For many the traditional going to church will be part of the holiday season. May you feel the spirit of Christ  and be blessed.

May you all have a day full of memories, love, and traditions to be carried on.

So as I must go now I wish everyone.