Father’s Day

I have been gone for a long time and I do apologize for that. My life has consumed my time. I’ve had little time for writing even. Although I am about to finish “Me and My Dogs” and hopefully it will be out by the first of July.

I had to be here though to talk about Father’s Day! How many of you have seen that commercial of what makes a good father with the actors from the modern day sitcom of Family Memories? Not sure of the exact title. He never gets an answer to the question.

Well I am going to talk about my father first.

My dad was a man of few words but he had a big heart. You always knew you could talk to him and that you were loved even when you were in trouble. He loved fishing more than life itself and he walked every river in Montana. He could fly fish when I couldn’t but he would still try to tolerate my mistakes until I made too many and then it was back to the old reel and rod which i preferred. When I got older he taught me how to drive and was very patient with me. He taught so that I could handle anything. He even let me work on the car with him side by side and no he wasn’t a mechanic.

My father didn’t believe in paying someone to do something you could do yourself. He gave me very strong values throughout my life.

He was a union leader even when he didn’t want to be because the men respected him and knew he could mediate fairly for them. He was known and respected by everyone in town.

He always believed in an honest days work for an honest days dollar and he taught us to work at an early age helping with yard work and what we could do around the house.

He would help anyone in need and he passed that on to us. I can remember him stopping on the highway to help a motorest in distress, which of course you wouldn’t do today.

He was always helping someone in the neighborhood fix their bike when they didn’t have anyone to help them.

When I had children of my own he set a perfect role model for my son’s of what a real man should be. He took them fishing, had them work with him and scolded them when they were in trouble.

My boys loved their grandfather and I am so thankful that they grew up knowing him. He was one of a kind. They truly did break the mold when they made him.

I have never met a man since that could fill his shoes. He always said,”Don’t judge a person until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.”

He was taken way to soon from this earth and I miss him so much. He was my dad, my best friend, my guider, and someone I trusted. Loosing him changed my entire life forever. Dad may you walk with the saints in Heaven. You truly were the best father ever and the boys and I love you so much.

I want you to know which I am sure you already do but it is important for me to say it, your grandsons learned the value of a man from you. Thank you for that. You gave my sons the greatest present a man could ever give.


My oldest son was extremely ill and ended up in the hospital after four emergency trips, a CAT scan and two MRI’s, a chest and stomache x-ray. Ten days of exhaustion got the better of me and I was scared when they said he had a lesion pressing on the nerve entering his brain. He still has a lot of doctoring to do and my worries aren’t over. While he was in the hospital I called his father whom I never speak to and the boys rarely speak to.

When he realized how serious it was he came (without his wife) with his stepdaughter. He happened to be here when they released my son from the hospital. They got to spend a day together before he had to return back.

He did more in that one trip than he has done in twenty eight years as both the boys realized he cared enough to come. Children have to see and feel the love it can’t remain hidden in your heart.

My son has a daughter of his own that he has never seen. My prayer for him is that she reaches out to him and finds him before it is too late. We love her wherever she is and would love to have her in our family.

You only get one chance to do it right as a parent so even though you will make mistakes you’d better get it right the first time around.

For all you dad’s out their Happy Father’s Day and remember what your father’s meant to you.


I will try to be better about blogging and get back into the habit. My health has been failing and I just had a scare with renal failure but am doing much better now. I want to enjoy my readers and all of the new friends I have made. Happy weekend to everyone


February 24, 2014

Wow! I’ve been away for a long time and so much has happened.

July I went to my high school reunion in Montana. Had a book signing . Visited with friends and family and had a wonderful time. It was hard to return home.

August I was caught up in a whirlwind of book signings with other local authors and trying to get back to writing.
This continued through the month of December. Holidays interfered with the writing but I did signings that I have never done that late in the year.

January came and I thought things would settle down but they have only picked up. I am having trouble finding time to write. I need to get back to my writing.

I did manage to publish “The Cat in The Box,” and “You Think You Want to be a Writer.”

This week on February 27th,I will be doing a presentation at the local Burley junior high on their Parent/Family Reading night. March 1st I will be doing a Book Signing on “You Think You Want to be a Writer, ” at the Book Plaza in Burley, Idaho.

March I start teach a course for the college on “You Think You Want to be a Writer.” It’s a five-day enrichment class.

I am trying to write “Me and My Dogs,” and one of my book customers I found out is going to school to become a professional editor and needed a book to edit for one of her classes so she is working on it for me. Hurray. The Lord has blessed me with great people in my life.

My life seems to be going around in circles but all is good. Several friends have passed away and yet through all of it we keep on going.

The weather here is great but I am sure will get hot shortly.

Today I am going to spend time on “Me and My Dogs.”

Now all I need to do is find someone who will illustrate my books and I will be in great shape.

I also found some who will edit my books to earn a book free and she did “You Think You Want to be a Writer.”

Books continue to sell and royalties continue to come in so I never know what is going to happen.

I am happy with the choices that I have made and now I will do my best to get up to date on my blog.

In the meantime you can find all my books on Amazon.com

June 6th

Hello everyone. Today I am going to share a repost from my dear friend at canipoflife. I’m sorry her pictures didn’t copy. However, as I read through these it was so important to my day and the kind of week I’ve been having that I wanted to make sure to share her beautiful sentiments. We travel through a journey of life not knowing what lays ahead of us. We all hope for love, everlasting commitment, and friendship. However, some find it and others don’t. Reading hear Philosophies of Life adds meaning to it all. I hope you enjoy and I am going to leave you with it to ponder over if for the day. So until next time 🙂

Philosophy of Life
by catnipoflife

Flower1We never get what we want,
We never want what we get,
We never have what we like,
We never like what we have.
And still we live & love.

That’s life…

Flower2The best kind of friends
are the kind you can sit with on a porch swing,
Never say a word,
And walk away feeling like it was
the best conversation you’ve ever had.
It’s true that we don’t know
What we’ve got until it’s gone,
But it’s also true that we don’t know
What we’ve been missing until it arrives.
Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they’ll love you back!
Don’t expect love in return;
Just wait for it to grow in their heart,
But if it doesn’t, be content it grew in yours.
It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone,
An hour to like someone,
And a day to love someone,
But it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
Don’t go for looks; they can deceive.
Don’t go for wealth; even that fades away.
Go for someone who makes you smile,
Because it takes only a smile to
Make a dark day seem bright.
Find the one that makes your heart smile!
Always put yourself in others’ shoes.
If you feel that it hurts you,
It probably hurts the other person, too.
The happiest of people
Don’t necessarily have the best of everything;
They just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
Happiness exists for
Those who cry,
Those who hurt,
Those who have searched,
And those who have tried,
For only they can appreciate the importance of people
Who have touched their lives.
When you were born, you were crying
And everyone around you was smiling.
Live your life so that when you die,
You’re the one who is smiling
And everyone around you is crying.
Please share/reblog this message
For those people who mean something to you,
To those who have touched your life in one way or another,
To those who make you smile when you really need it,
To those that make you see the brighter side of things when you are really down,
To those who you want to know that you appreciate their friendship.
And if you don’t, don’t worry,
Nothing bad will happen to you,
You will just miss out on the opportunity
to brighten someone’s life with this message…

The true blessings of life are free. Savor. Share. Smile.

June 4th

Hello everyone. I hope you are all find it a nice sunny day like I am.
Yesterday wasn’t the best day for me so I ended up sleeping it away. I am glad to be back on track now.

I would like to wish my ex-husband a Happy Birthday. My sons never understand why I think about him and they feel that it is unhealthy. However we were together for over twenty years . We were high school sweethearts, college sweethearts married for fifteen years and had two children together. No I don’t know what went wrong and I never will but the one thing I do know is he blessed me with wonderful children and I do remember the good more than the bad.

I am mentioning this on my blog today because too often we get wrapped up in hatred and not forgiving those who have touched our lives.

Although I don’t speak to my ex-husband and he is remarried and has little contact with his sons. I don’t wish him any will ill. He is now 64 and I remember him in his youth when he was a kind, fun person to be around.

My point is we affect everyone we come into contact with whether it is one day, one year or one lifetime. We need to remember the good impact and move on our own journey in life.

I encourage my sons to call him on his birthday but in the end that is their choice for they had their own relationship with him. I have nothing to do with that anymore.

However, every year when this day rolls around I can’t help remember it’s his birthday. I hope he has a wonderful healthy day.

Through anger, heartache, and love I’ve come to understand whatever went wrong caused a love hate relationship.

One cannot live that way. The majority of the time I remember him with love but there are moments that the hatred surfaces and I have to put it back to rest. However, those days have grown few and far between now that I have become comfortable in my own life.

One should not marry until they find themselves for the chance of a happy journey is rare until you know who you are and what you want.

I will always love my ex-husband but it wasn’t meant to be. I will wish him the best today and go on with my day as usual. For I have found myself and I am finally happy. At least as happy as any person can be.

So to anyone out there who has a birthday today congratulations. Live life to the fullest and be happy. Have a piece of cake and ice cream for me.

This is a day that I will always remember as a celebration of life for without this day I would not have two wonderful sons. Thank you for that.

May 31st

Hello everyone. It is a nice sunny day. However, I’d like to know where the month of May went.

My sister was able to get the flowers put on the cemetery early and what a blessing that was since they had a horrible snowstorm around a week of rain.

Now the grass has turned green and things are looking better.

Here we are at a time when schools are ending, and graduations are happening. Graduates are getting ready to begin that new journey of their life so let’s pray for their safety.

Now temperatures are climbing and families are thinking about summer activities, planting gardens, fishing, camping, and planning vacations.

Some people will be moving over the summer and starting new adventures in their lives.

However, there are those whose lives change very little and that is the disabled.

Now I want to address the disabled because I am seeing so many ads on how easy it is to get disability once you reach fifty-five years of age.

I am here to tell you that is not true. There are some rules that have changed however you can still planning on being refused at a minimum of three or more times.

There are some simple guidelines one should follow

1. Apply as soon as you can no longer physically work
2. Upon first rejection hire an attorney who works only with disabilities and social security.
3. Make sure you have lots of medical documentation and a doctor that understands how to fill out the paper work.
4. Write your congressman before you lose your home, car and personal belongings.
5. Don’t expect everyone to do the work for you.
6. Fight for what you deserve
7. Make sure you have worked with Vocational Rehabilitation or it’s an automatic rejection
8. Don’t give up because that’s what they want
9. Plan! Plan! Plan!
10. Find someone to help you if you don’t know what to do.

Don’t apply if you can work because the longer you work the more you put into Social Security and the larger your check will be when you need it.

It is important that we all understand the importance of not taking advantage of the system. When we do that we drain the account so that it isn’t there later on.

Take pride in working and work as long as you can. However, when you no longer physically can work take the steps that are required to assure yourself of an adequate living.

Cut back on extra spending. Learn to live modestly and within your means. If you don’t have the cash don’t purchase something you can’t afford.

Don’t listen to ads that make it sound like everything is free and easy and your ship has come in because they are misleading you.

Respect the disabled and those who need the help. After all their life has been affected the most by being disabled.

Do what you can to keep active and have a positive attitude. Don’t let the world beat you down. Enjoy family, nature, hobbies, and simple entertainment.

Whatever you do I wish you the best and if anyone is having difficulty getting disability let me know and I can guide you through the process. Remember lawyers are in it for the money. I get nothing from it.

So now that I have posted about one of my concerns I wish you all a wonderful weekend.

So until next time 🙂

May 30th

Hello everyone hope everyone is fine on this blustery day 🙂

Now if Murphy’s Law could be tattooed on my back it couldn’t have any more of an impact than what has been going on lately.

Extra bills this month with Car Tags and incidentals.

My sons unemployment ran out and there is no more. Then he lost his driver’s license and you can’t even get work with out an Identification.

Replacement’s are now up to $15.00 .

My check was spoke for and is gone.

Food ran out except for all those extra cans in the cupboard that need something else to go with that you don’t have.

Then to make matters worse the cats have been fighting all week and I’ve had to get on them.

This whole week has had me major stressed out not to even mention I didn’t have the money to order my newly published book.

Now I have always believed that when things get at there worst the Lord will come through for you.

Facing my house insurance and my car insurance and the car tags without any money. I prayed and prayed that my state reimbursement for groceries would come. I don’t due taxes since I’m on disability and even though I have my books I haven’t made enough for it to be a problem yet.

For three days I prayed and that was before I realized my son had lost his license I thought he had found it and everything there was okay. Last night I prayed extra hard after he told me he didn’t have it.

Well today guess what was in the mail? It was enough to cover a replacement license, tags on the car and the car insurance. Now he can go look for work.

I still have to worry about the house insurance but that is the smallest one and it is better to pay one overdraft bank charge than three. At least my bank gives that option.

Then today I found out that the two new books that I ordered will arrive tomorrow instead of June 7th. I have already sold them and mailed an invoice to the public library which would cover the house insurance. Let’s hope that check comes through right away.
I will be praying extra hard tonight for that and thanking the Lord for blessing me today.

I learned as a child the Lord helps those who help themselves and I keep trying. However, sometimes I just need a little extra help because society has a way of working against you.

However, I never give up as I have learned “ask and you shall receive.”

Tonight I am going to pray extra hard for my books and that my new book takes off. I have poured my heart and soul into all of them but this last one even though I didn’t tell all told much.

I am going to pray to be able to continue to have internet because I love my internet friends. However, if I have to put it on standby it will be for a short period of time.

Always know I will come back. I am going to continue to pray for my health and my sons.

Prayer to me is very private no one sees me do it but it’s between me and my Lord. Thank you Lord for being my best friend and walking with me through the good and the bad times.

Now on a different note: I also gave Baby my cat a bath today. This is a twenty-five to thirty pound cat that doesn’t like water and is covered in hair.

She is a very clean cat but I don’t know what she did Murphy’s Law was at it again as I was planning a bath for her on a warm day. However, today when she woke me up to feed her she smelled like she had rolled in the litter box. Oh my gosh. I don’t allow that smell to get out of control in the house. Yet here my house reeked. She couldn’t go in any room without smelling up the entire house.

I took my pain pill for my back. Then I prepared the bathroom and got the water ready. Finally she got curious enough to come to me so it wouldn’t be an exhausting chase. Once I had her I closed the door locking the other cat out so he couldn’t sympathize with her.
Now she was sitting in a sink of water and I had a lock on her where she couldn’t get away. Her nails are very long and that was my biggest worry but she doesn’t like to hurt me so she was very careful about that even though she wanted out and down. I had my container to use to rinse the soap off of her and even a stool that I could sit down if my back and legs gave out. Not having any cat soap I used my dove shampoo and continued to wash her. When I finally had her rinsed I sat her up on the counter on towels that were ready to dry her. She was once glad to be on the counter and allowed me to try to drive her for a few minutes. Then she had decided enough was enough and jumped down. By then I agreed with her and she now smelt good and I could let her travel through the house.

She spent the day grooming herself until I laid down to watch “Let’s Make a Deal ” and then she finally fell asleep on my lap. She has now forgiven me for the ordeal that she hates so much. No the male cat Skeeter is giving me the evil eye wondering when I am going to attack him. We will see if my back is up to it tomorrow. I can’t do both in one day.

After telling my son he said he would make sure to take care of the litter box and make sure it was clean as that is his job for living here.

Now as the day grows late I hope Murphy has gone to sleep as I have had enough this week.

It is time for some positive in my life. That’s why my sight is cjanasdreams. I use it when things are going well.

So think about how your day has gone and what is going on in your life and share it with others as it may give them a laugh, a smile or a brighter day.

I hope somewhere along the way I have brightened your day. At least now I can look out and see sunshine even if the winds are strong today.

So as I end my day I know that progress was made and I am thankful for that. Now I can continue the evening chores with peace of mind.

So until next time 🙂

May 28th

Hello everyone. I hope you had a wonderful and safe Memorial Day weekend. It was a time to remember those that have served us and our country as well as those we loved who have left this earth before we were ready.

It is a weekend mixed with joy, sadness, tears, and many memories both good and bad. However, somehow we always manage to appreciate this weekend. It brings families together and a renewal of memories and faith that we take for granite on daily basis.

Now we will be ready to move on into summer life and what it will bring our way.

Farmer’s will be busy working in their fields. Families will enjoy camping, fishing and BBQ’s.

It is a time to appreciate nature and family. Schools will be out and students will enjoy their freedom from books and studying.

Gas prices will affect travel and vacations. Hopefully there will be a drop in food and gas so that all may enjoy some summer.

My enjoyment for now is knowing that my book “Secrets Behind Closed Doors,” is now life. It is my forty-year journey of teaching. It shares the good, the bad and the ugly. I talk about the Beginning years of teaching when it was fun to be a teacher. I discuss the ending of my career and what literally chased me out of my career that I loved.


I will be adding the book links this week but in the meantime you can contact me or go to Amazon.com.

I have already sold some books and they haven’t even arrived yet.

So as school ends for 2013 so does my career as told in my book.

I wish everyone a wonderful week . Stay safe and warm.

So until next time 🙂